We all have expectations and just maybe that bar is too high.
Why do people whip themselves into a frenzy regarding how others should be? I don’t have the succinct and clear answer for you.
“When expectations are high it is an invitation for heartbreak and disappointment.”
The American writer Laura Ingalls Wilder said, “Persons appear to us according to the light we throw upon them from our own minds.”
The following tips may be helpful to you:
1) Try to separate observation from perception. Let your eyes observe carefully before formulating an opinion.
2) Spend time thinking and meditating. When I’m alone it is a rare time to be temporarily selfish. For a brief moment I am by myself; unfettered by other dreams, expectations, or needs.
3) Exhibit patience. As we are all flawed humans, I am continually amazed at our lack of patience. Make no mistake about it, this has a direct correlation with unrealistic and high expectations of others. Just about everything I can think of is difficult before it becomes easy.
4) Expect nothing but a pleasant surprise. While somewhat of a reversal in psychology, the idea here is to not fantasize about possibilities but be surprised by something simple and real.
I want any reader to understand one thing: it is more than okay to have high expectations for self. In fact, I might argue in our personal and business lives that this forms foundation threads to attain success.
Make sure your expectations are rooted in some reality!!
My friends please remember this: respect, consideration, and courtesy matter a lot. Treat others fairly, decently, and equally.
Build your moral compasses carefully and always monitor them daily.
You know the battle cry: do your best each day. No one can ask more or less from any of us.
All the best/blessings, Mark